I had a delightful dream last night which I need to share as it is directly connected to some of you and is certainly a story worth telling. The dream takes place in a variety of places, there are several different scenes, and there are a number of different people featured. The places are not important but the people are. The vast majority of the people in the dream are men that I know or men that I have known and who have passed over.
There wasn't a whole lot of dialog in the dream, and in some cases we just seemed to be walking together. The stand out feature though is that all the men that featured have a very similar quality but it is not a quality that is universally held or displayed by the majority of men. There is no single word to describe the quality these men hold so I'll have to describe their characteristics further. These men are the men who have mastered temporal life, their lives are stable, they have or had good jobs that they did well, they don't have emotional up and downs, they are sensible, reliable and trustworthy. These are the men you know you can 100% rely on if you need them; they are generous, kind and caring to those they know and even those they do not know. I will mention a few people who appeared in the dream - my father in law Tony was one of the first to appear near the beginning of the dream as were Nigel and Noel from Rockhampton. Jim from Bundaberg featured near the end but these few names only represent some of the men I know who have these qualities. Another man who springs to mind is Frank, not me but another Frank described by others as 'the gentleman of Bundamba railway station' or 'the elder statesman at Bundamba station - his quality was and still is certainly felt by myself and others. There are other men who didn't feature in the dream and I haven't named but certainly have this quality - some of you reading this will know who you are. I woke up this morning with a strong feeling of appreciation for these men, and the reflections they have provided for me over the years. They reflect to me the qualities of a true man, qualities that matter, qualities that make a difference..!!
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When somebody says the word exercise, most people will immediately think of physical exercise, but that is just one type. Another type is mental exercise; exercising the brain to perform certain tasks more quickly and easily. An example could be a mathematical exercise where you gain strength in the ability to solve certain mathematical formulas, or a problem solving exercise where you get better at working out problems or puzzles. A person who regularly does crossword puzzles will notice their ability improve over time, solving puzzles more quickly as they exercise their vocabulary and knowledge. But what else can you exercise, and can you measure an improvement from that exercise? In case you haven't guessed by the title, and the Peanuts cartoon, I am talking about exercising your ability to 'appreciate'. I had heard of people going on an 'appreciation program', which is similar to an exercise program where you repeat a task to build strength in that area, and decided to give it a go. The concept is simple - find one thing to appreciate every day. What you appreciate could be many things, but I guess the more personally meaningful it is the better the exercise works. You could appreciate something somebody does for you, you could appreciate something about yourself, you could appreciate something you did really well.
At the beginning, like in any exercise program, I found it difficult to find something to appreciate every single day; but also, like other exercise programs, it got easier and easier as time went by. It didn't matter if my appreciation for the day was a big thing or a tiny thing - it was the constant exercise that built the strength. So what is the benefit of all this appreciation? It gave me a very different outlook on life, basically opening my eyes to the good things in the world, in other people, and in myself that I simply had not noticed before. I feel more confident as I know there are so many things that I can do, and do do very well each and every day. Previously I only saw the highlights and appreciated them, but they were few and far between; now I see so many things to appreciate every single day. I can see the beauty in other people, even those I don't know, just by watching them interact with others. Most importantly though, I appreciate a lot more about myself than before - and that brings an inner joy that I've never known before. |
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